BLESSED TO BE BONKERS

IS NOT A SELF HELP BOOK.

SELF-HELP LITERATURE ABOUNDS,

…and it probably works for someone who CAN help themselves. That brings up a dicey subject though, doesn’t it? I refer to the subject of helplessness.

I might convince myself in my most vaulted manic state that I can do anything, but when I look at my track record, I have generally expended a lot of energy doing nothing. In the depressed state, I have no motivation to do anything. If I could live in the balanced state, neither manic nor depressed, would I be able to accomplish something--well focused, evenly applied effort, goal clearly in mind? I think I have to answer ambiguously, because I haven’t ever experienced a significant state of balance (emotional). I also have to question whether the mental resources available to me in my manic state would actually be available to me in the balanced state. I ask that, because those resources aren’t there when I am depressed. If anything, I have demonstrated clearly that I have neither the will nor the capacity essential to cure myself or make myself better.

That’s the oxymoron of self-help. Self help demands that I tap whatever inner resources are available to me, and, using my will, apply those resources to what ever shortcoming I perceive in myself; but I don't seem to have a reliable reservoir of those inner resources! Of course my “shortcoming” is always something I want to change about myself or my life. I think self-help books are popular because they allow the aspiring reader to apply the book's advice discreetly, often in total private and solitude--like a secret personal war against aspects of me that don’t measure up to standards. Whose standards are they!? …they are standards I have adopted from someone else--someone who has something I don’t have; does something I don’t do; lives in a way that I don’t live. If I try to "fix" myself under the terms of the self-help book and my attempt fails, then the self-help book amplifies my failure, doesn't it? ..., and I feel now not only the stigma of helplessness, but also the frustration of failure. The fact that I kept private my effort to make a change and avoided the scrutiny of critics does not assuage my sense of failure. It is my opinion, by and large, that self-help books excel best in enhancing the futility and failure I perceive in my life.

Of course I could console myself and say that by buying the self-help book, I have helped its author!

So I have learned through such failure to sidestep any efforts at self-help by seeking help from sources outside myself! To justify that thinking, I have to ACCEPT that, sometimes at least, I need help. Even more fundamentally, I have to accept that dealing with my disease, lacking any known cure, is actually a matter well beyond self help (No argument there)! Acceptance of the debilitating power of my disease DOESN'T mean I allow my addiction and my bipolar disorder to become my master, but I DO acknowledge that they are as much a part of me as my arms and legs.

I'll offer you some counterpoint here to highlight the value of submission or surrender to issues of helplessness. Bear in mind that submission or surrender does not mean defeat--it merely implies a need to change my battle plan:

When I rely ONLY on myself for help (self-help) and I fail, I have exhausted my resources; and the only product of that kind of failure is hopelessness. If, however, I TURN TO OTHERS for help and that help fails, I still have a universe of people and resources to search for a solution! I can thus continue to have hope, and I can move forward with that hope. So I argue that accepting my helplessness, actually increases my resources and my prognosis for success! It's the same old paradox, "SURRENDER TO WIN!"

Another thing that helps me to accept my disease is the solid faith and belief that being different from someone else is not necessarily bad. Happiness, as I see it, is a universal commodity which seems to depend strictly on how much, OR how little, I demand to make me happy.

So I try not to languish in my “disease.” Rather I seek help to deal with it and move on to what makes me happy. Doesn’t that sound like acceptance?

          REVIEWS            

CEREBRAL BLESSED TO BE BONKERS STORM   

JANUARY 27 2007
"Book reviews for bipolar or addiction and dual diagnosis seem to draw focus from several categories: clinical or expert; maudlin or disturbing associations; celebrity or sensationalism; self-help or professional treatment; holistic or chemical. These diseases from any viewpoint, unlike other diseases, tend to invade my mind, my thinking, my attention, and my reasoning 24/7. Seldom, as yet, have I found an encouraging source of literature in which someone addresses the combined recovery from both bipolar and addiction, from the "inside out", and in a truthful, hopeful, and encouraging way. BLESSED TO BE BONKERS, however, IS a book which has that quality."

"BLESSED TO BE BONKERS is not a self-help book, not a clinical treatise, not another embellished ghost written celebrity story. This creative non-fictional work tells of the experience, insight, and success the author has drawn from using proven effective tools for managing mood swings and manic reasoning in conjunction with alcoholism. The author attempts to fill in the void where the vast majority of bipolar and addiction sufferers maintain treacherous silence. It is a MUST READ for those who wish to escape silent suffering and to take the first valiant steps toward effective coping and happy survival in the face of the burden which the diseases and the process of recovery present. The first printing will appear in paperback form and the author plans to provide a limited number of signed and serialized copies."

“BLESSED TO BE BONKERS is a heartfelt and truthful account of one man’s journey toward overcoming a lifelong struggle with bipolar disorder. Rather than a lamenting diatribe on the misfortune of a mental disorder, the work espouses an optimistic attitude and a hopeful tone. It is obvious from the way it is written that the book was created not only as a way of helping the author to document his personal triumphs and tragedies, but also as a philanthropic attempt a reaching out to others who may be going through similar experiences.”

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